Dear friends & wellwishers,
Today I was just thinking about the heart of life...any guesses? It is obviously the relationships. These are just what I feel about the expressing the feelings in our relationship with our loved ones; our friends. One may agree or disagree with my views. However, I feel that relationships are just like small saplings which always need love & care. If taken for granted or left unattended for a long time they may lose vitality and sometimes they may even cease to exist.
Sometime back, I watched the movie “Love Story (1970)”, there is a famous quote in that; “Love means never having to say you're sorry”. However, I have always felt the other way round. For me love actually means that I do care about you; your every feeling and if I have done wrong, I owe an apology because you are special to me, so “Please forgive me”; I trust you to the extent that I know you will embrace me wholeheartedly without making me feel bad. Saying sorry doesn’t make anyone low in status. If we value a relationship, ego is the first emotion we shed. When the best of our friends or our loved one spot a hurt, they do whatever they can to heal it. It is also apparent that we do not feel hurt because of an enemy but because of the people we trust & love so it is our duty to nurse it back to good health.
I don’t think that it is fair when people say that in friendship there is no need to say sorry or thank you. In fact it is really required. It is not a formality and by saying these words obviously I don’t mean just uttering them every time but to mean them and to make our loves ones to feel that they are taken care of. Our near & dear ones are special to us and saying ‘Thank you for being there’ really makes a difference.
There are so many things we don’t say in our entire life. And you know what? On the death bed we will never repent if we have not said anything bad to someone but we will surely repent if we have not said or expressed the good things to the people whom we love. We will surely feel bad if we did not express how important was the help we got from our friend or how much sorry we felt when we had hurt our beloved or how much we missed our loved one or how much we love our family. Just brood over it once!!!
Have we ever called up our mother or a loved one and said, “I miss you” just like that? Have we ever thought of saying our child that we love them sooooooooooo... much? Believe it or not these little words instill the life force in our loved ones; a sense of security, confidence and trust. Expressing our love to our family & friends fosters the relationship and sometimes rejuvenates it.These powerful affirmations actually tell someone we love that he/she is wanted, needed, desired and loved. Our loved ones get a good reason to smile and sometimes a reason to live life.
We all are human beings and have the unsaid emotional needs. ‘I love you’, I miss you’, ‘I am sorry’, I thank you’ and many more such expressions are perhaps the most important words that we can say. These have the ultimate power to heal & to satisfy a person's deepest emotional needs; the need to belong, to feel appreciated & to be wanted. Our family, our friends and we, all need to hear those little words.
Love & friendship are not ‘no sorry’ or ‘no thank you’ relationships. They need to be taken care by expressing how significant they are. It is very important to show that we love, respect & value them. It is important to say sorry if we have hurt them. It is important to express our gratitude that they are in our lives. Life is not something to be taken for granted but a wonderful gift to be nurtured and relationships are the heart to be taken care of.
With a courteous smile,
Pragati Soni
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