Saturday, March 03, 2012

It is ok to fight...!!!

Dear friends & wellwishers,
Today's write up is dedicated to my sweet little sister Prerna. Like her name she always inspires me to do what I love to do and most importantly to be myself .
My sister always says that one should not strive to become ideal but to be what really he/she wants to be. Very very true!!!
Really, it is ok to be imperfect. People say that we should accept others with their imperfection but what is equally important to accept our imperfection and to be happy with it
Sometimes...
It is ok to cry
It is ok to laugh aloud
It is ok to get angry
It is ok to feel jealous
It is ok to be lazy
It is ok to be careless
It is ok to break rules
It is ok to commit mistakes
It is ok to fall in love again
It is ok to fight with our near & dear ones
We usually accept people for what they are but when it comes to us we become a bit hard on ourselves.
We question ourselves for being normal...Like
We become sad if we have not got what we desire but we don't accept that we can be sad. We show that we are invincible and nothing can affect us. What is the point? Fine, if we were hurt. We are simple human beings.
We curse us for being careless that how can we be that...In fact life becomes easier if we admit that. It happens...
Research shows that it better to be express anger actively rather than passively. So suppressing the anger is neither good for health nor for our relationships.
We feel jealous sometimes because of xyz reason. No matter how secure we feel but sometimes if we feel insecure we can acknowledge that.
Falling in love (I don't mean crush), is one of the most wonderful feelings. We want to spend our entire life and dedicate ourself to someone. But sometimes, nothing goes as expected and everything falls apart. We should take our time, forgive, forget & heal but we should not close the doors. It is not bad to fall in love again.
Fight, believe me sometimes our loved ones want that. Every emotion has got its own significance. Fight with them and fight for them. It makes one happy and worth.
You know what, there is a serious repercussion if we strive to be perfect and that is, we actually stop to be what we actually are. Here I am not saying that we should not work on getting rid of bad habits or any bad emotion however there is fine balance. For instance...
Crying is having a healing effect however too much crying stops us from living a happy life.
Laughing is again the most qualitative moment we can gift to ourselves. However, where to laugh and on what to laugh at also matters.
Getting angry is fine however what is important is to get angry at the right time and right reason which makes all the difference.
Feeling jealous...all right. We may be afraid in loosing something or someone but it should not lead in hurting somebody.
Want to rest and spend time in practically doing nothing. Go ahead, sometimes it is required however we should not forget "Time & tide waits for nobody".
Sometimes we are too much occupied in life that we commit silly mistakes and carelessly handle (mishandle) a situation. There is a limit of that too. Booking tickets for wrong train or date when we are expected or needed by loved ones is not good at all.
Love should always be taken as lifetime commitment. It should not be taken as time pass but sometimes if things don't go as we have expected...in such circumstances we should not lose our hope "Love like we have never loved before" and we should try our best to make it work. We don't fall in love everyday.
Fight is important and has its own power to revive relationbships. However, we should not let it break the bond of trust & love.
We need to take life easy. We should try not to make it difficult for anybody not even for us. We should not try to make it hard for us but always try to live it.
When I started writing this today, I thought I would write it short however I accept my imperfection of giving good amount of details. I think it is ok and if you think not, you can always fight with me. It is ok to fight!!!
Thanks betu...you are a wonderful sister :-)
This time I am signing off with an imperfect smile
Pragati Soni

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Two very important take aways:
1. Maintianing the balance for emotions.
2. Its ok to fall in love again.
(Will try to remember them always)