Yes, it is true that "Sometimes we have to let go of what we can't live without..:-)"
Being a practical person, I believe that no one can be an altruist. I am also not an altruist or completely unselfish person. However, life has given me more than one occasion of letting go important things in my life. I still don't know if those events have made me wiser or more detached. The only thing I know is that I am at peace with myself.
The reason of letting go can be any; sometimes it is death and sometimes...life too. Sometimes we don't have control, sometimes we don't want to control and sometimes we should not control. Sometimes we already know the value of what we are losing and sometimes we realize it after it goes. I concur, it is seldom followed by happiness. Most of the times it leaves a void in our life which can never be filled by time.
When our maternal grandmother, passed away 15 years back, it was very difficult to let her go, as we got chance of being loved by only one grand parent. Life is still going on and we all have moved but it is no doubt difficult to live without such an unselfish love & elderly support. That time, I didn't have any control. After all, God's will is supreme when it comes to birth, marriage & death.
Throughout our lives, so many incidents occur, sometimes we have to let go our dear family, sometimes true friends and sometimes the one we really love (even life-partner). All the ones I have mentioned are quite important to our lives and without them our life is meaningless. We invest invaluable time and precious energy in nurturing these. We weave our present & future around them.. Our past memories are enriched with them. In one word word they are epicentre of our life hence letting go is more than difficult to explain and the pain is unbearable. We cannot even imagine our lives without them..
I would like to say that when the life is cause of letting go our family, friends and love...just make sure it is for their happiness. Never try to control. If they are happy then we will be happy eventually. After all life is all about happiness if not directly ours then the ones we love & care for. Yes, as I mentioned before, it will create a void sometimes a vacuum in our life, however, if it gives fresh air to them then let them breath & live life. In the end life is all about the happiness of the ones we love & care for.
With lots of smiles full of life & happiness,
Pragati Soni
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Sunday, September 18, 2011
God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to
Hello Friends,
Few years back, I came across a quite simple but thought provoking email on relationships...romantic relationships. Romantic relationship is one of the most complex relationships on earth. Sometimes it is both sided whereas sometimes it is a one sided feeling; sometimes couples go for mutual break ups and sometimes one of them takes the decision & justy walks away. Love forever seems to be a rare event nowadys and unfortunately flirts & flings are common everywhere. This email gave me a fair explanation why people find it easy to fall in love everytrime whereas difficult to sustain it.
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happens TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades (sometimes only one partener feels this). It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking,"Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeed in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work if the other person really means it. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
*Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to*
I hope and somewhere silently wish to see ' love forever' everywhere. Life is nothing without love. Love makes the bundle of moments...a beautiful life. Do not bind love...leave it free but once in love give your 100% to sustain it. True love is a blessing of God, value it.
With a sustained lovely smile,
Pragati Soni
Few years back, I came across a quite simple but thought provoking email on relationships...romantic relationships. Romantic relationship is one of the most complex relationships on earth. Sometimes it is both sided whereas sometimes it is a one sided feeling; sometimes couples go for mutual break ups and sometimes one of them takes the decision & justy walks away. Love forever seems to be a rare event nowadys and unfortunately flirts & flings are common everywhere. This email gave me a fair explanation why people find it easy to fall in love everytrime whereas difficult to sustain it.
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happens TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades (sometimes only one partener feels this). It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking,"Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeed in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work if the other person really means it. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
*Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to*
I hope and somewhere silently wish to see ' love forever' everywhere. Life is nothing without love. Love makes the bundle of moments...a beautiful life. Do not bind love...leave it free but once in love give your 100% to sustain it. True love is a blessing of God, value it.
With a sustained lovely smile,
Pragati Soni
Pass the biscuits...:-)
Hello Everybody,
We all know that biscuits provide nourishment to our body. So let us discuss about various kinds of biscuits available in the market like fibre biscuits, tea-time biscuits, cream biscuits, coconut biscuits and many more. Please, don't wonder. Being a foodie, I can discuss about this but not this time. However, we all agree that we need food for nourishment. This 'We' can be extended to our fellow plants & animals too. In a similar way, relationships also need nourishment. But, we do not get the right stuff always and never readily available. Because, the food for healthy relationships are not packaged & sold in supermarkets. Most of the times we have to work hard to get the healthy food to keep our life & relationships in good shape.
Few weeks back, I found a very good & short story floating on our company intranet...the story is about biscuits...I mean relationships :-) and it goes like this (in italics) followed by my thoughts:
"When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast, food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt biscuits."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burnt. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your mummy put in a long hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides... a burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"
After going through this short story I thought that if we can really learn to appreciate the burnt biscuits in our lives then they can nourish our ever lasting & happy relationships :-). Infact, when I brooded over my life, I found that I have been passing burnt biscuits to my family since my childhood and they never complained and always conveyed that they enjoyed every bit of it. My family has really been my best school for learning life, living and relationships.
You know what, relationships are not the projects where accuracy is everything. One may commit a mistake or a series of mistakes over a period of time, however, most of the times not intentionally. We deal with our families,friends and many more in our lives. Sometimes we loose our patience in dealing with them if they get angry, very emotional or do or say some illogical things. Not only this, we get annoyed if our calls are not answered, our emails are not replied or if our friend couldn't turn up. Sometimes, we also feel bad, if the action or reaction is not the way we wished or imagined. We either express this negatively (active reaction) or slowly cut off (passive reaction).
One may easily get frustrated or irritated if somebody has done a mistake or a continuum of mistakes. Besides this, leaving the person is also an effortless option. However, I wonder if these reactions do any good? If we go in deep we may find that the person might be undergoing some difficult or tough times. He or she desperately needs a listening ear or a shoulder to lean upon. At this juncture, we are required to step in the lives of our near & dear ones and not to step out. It is our understanding, support & above all love that our loved ones need.
We cannot change anybody by showing anger, irritation or frustration. The reason being, only one thing in the entire universe can actually make a person to change in a true sense and that is……”Love”. Love provides the security & motivation that actually have the power to change a person for good.
The best nourishment to relationship can be provided by love which ultimately leads to understanding & patience. It is one of the best nutrition we can give to our relationships.
We need to understand that sometimes, the biscuits passed to us are burnt but not because somebody wanted them to burn but because somebody simply couldn’t help it and need us. That is it :-)
So...please pass me the biscuits... anytime you wish. And yes, a burnt one will be just fine!
With a sweet smile full of life,
Pragati Soni
We all know that biscuits provide nourishment to our body. So let us discuss about various kinds of biscuits available in the market like fibre biscuits, tea-time biscuits, cream biscuits, coconut biscuits and many more. Please, don't wonder. Being a foodie, I can discuss about this but not this time. However, we all agree that we need food for nourishment. This 'We' can be extended to our fellow plants & animals too. In a similar way, relationships also need nourishment. But, we do not get the right stuff always and never readily available. Because, the food for healthy relationships are not packaged & sold in supermarkets. Most of the times we have to work hard to get the healthy food to keep our life & relationships in good shape.
Few weeks back, I found a very good & short story floating on our company intranet...the story is about biscuits...I mean relationships :-) and it goes like this (in italics) followed by my thoughts:
"When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast, food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt biscuits."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burnt. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your mummy put in a long hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides... a burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"
After going through this short story I thought that if we can really learn to appreciate the burnt biscuits in our lives then they can nourish our ever lasting & happy relationships :-). Infact, when I brooded over my life, I found that I have been passing burnt biscuits to my family since my childhood and they never complained and always conveyed that they enjoyed every bit of it. My family has really been my best school for learning life, living and relationships.
You know what, relationships are not the projects where accuracy is everything. One may commit a mistake or a series of mistakes over a period of time, however, most of the times not intentionally. We deal with our families,friends and many more in our lives. Sometimes we loose our patience in dealing with them if they get angry, very emotional or do or say some illogical things. Not only this, we get annoyed if our calls are not answered, our emails are not replied or if our friend couldn't turn up. Sometimes, we also feel bad, if the action or reaction is not the way we wished or imagined. We either express this negatively (active reaction) or slowly cut off (passive reaction).
One may easily get frustrated or irritated if somebody has done a mistake or a continuum of mistakes. Besides this, leaving the person is also an effortless option. However, I wonder if these reactions do any good? If we go in deep we may find that the person might be undergoing some difficult or tough times. He or she desperately needs a listening ear or a shoulder to lean upon. At this juncture, we are required to step in the lives of our near & dear ones and not to step out. It is our understanding, support & above all love that our loved ones need.
We cannot change anybody by showing anger, irritation or frustration. The reason being, only one thing in the entire universe can actually make a person to change in a true sense and that is……”Love”. Love provides the security & motivation that actually have the power to change a person for good.
The best nourishment to relationship can be provided by love which ultimately leads to understanding & patience. It is one of the best nutrition we can give to our relationships.
We need to understand that sometimes, the biscuits passed to us are burnt but not because somebody wanted them to burn but because somebody simply couldn’t help it and need us. That is it :-)
So...please pass me the biscuits... anytime you wish. And yes, a burnt one will be just fine!
With a sweet smile full of life,
Pragati Soni
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
3 storys and an innocent, pure, beautiful & divine emotion
Love, a beautiful word… Isn't it? It unknowingly brings smile on our face. Everything seems to be so beautiful with just one word. It is really one of the most innocent, pure & divine feelings on earth. Not only we, the humans but animals and even plants do love. However, have you ever thought about some vital elements of love ? Ok...just think there can be many forms of water but there is something basic about water which makes it water. There are different kinds of books or movies but there is something elementary about them which makes them books or movies. There are different kinds of human beings but there is something fundamental about a human being which makes a human being. I am just trying to pen down my feelings about what is something basic that love can be or love can never be? What is something basic about true love?
At different junctures of my life I have come across different real scenarios & real or fictional stories that somehow helped me in carving out my understanding about love. If not all, I would like to share atleast 3 stories of love here along with my thoughts.
Most of us are familiar with the famous novel “Devdas” written by the great Indian author Late Shri Saratchandra Chattopadhyay & its famous character Devdas. People call it love and the story as a tragic love story. But I am sorry; I beg to differ.
The character Devdas, a lover of Paro, lost his childhood love. When Paro married another man, Devdas, renounced his family drowned himself in liquor & ultimately died. I wonder if it was really love. Why??? Because, I feel love cannot result into hurting anybody at least not the person whom we love. Devdas, didn’t think that his plight would hurt everyone who loves him. In fact, he did so to hurt them including Paro. Can it be love?
Love has simply no objective to own somebody or something, one loves rather true love is all about the happiness of someone we really love.
Now the second one.....Few years ago a very sentimental story ran across internet. It was about a simple boy who was a mediocre soccer player. He outperformed on the final day of his match, and when he was asked how? His answer was that his blind father who used to come every day to the match was no more, and it was the first day he was seeing the match from the heaven. He could drown himself in the ocean of sadness but it was true love which inspired him to play at his level best to make his father happy even in the heaven. His tribute to his father was true love. True Love inspires.
I started this article with a story from an Indian novel, I am quoting the third story again from Indian literature..... When I was in 7th or 8th standard I read “Nandini” a short story by veteran Indian author Premchanda. In this beautifully woven story, an aimless boy gets the meaning of life because of Nandini, a cow. When Nandini came into his life, it became the pivot of his life but Nandini was taken away by a landlord and this boy lost everything he acquired. But he truly loved Nandini & didn’t go back to his old mundane lifestyle but got himself indulged into productive activities, a tribute to his love. He retained the happiness Nandini brought into his life. True Love motivates to bring out best in ourselves.
All these facts about love may sound idealistic but it is also true that love is ideal. Love helps us to rise above what is ordinary.
Being realistic, I accept that most of the times love is accompanied with pain. But trust me, love has the power to heal also, we just need to trust love.
My purpose of this piece of writing is simple: it doesn’t no matter if we get or lose what we love: a person, a passion or anything but it matters to realize the true nature of this divine feeling. Our love should always result in something beautiful & fruitful to the life on earth. Love can never make us to run away from our duties, from our near and dear ones, from our lives but can only bring us closer to these. We need to remember, true love is all about happiness of the ones we really care for or love; it inspires & motivates; it brings best in us.
True love can become a center of our life but can never make us self-centered.
By this time you might have thought about few more basic elements of love. In fact that is what I would like to you to do. Life is nothing without love.
However, no matter what different people perceive but love will always be one of the most innocent, pure, beautiful & divine emotion in the entire universe.
At different junctures of my life I have come across different real scenarios & real or fictional stories that somehow helped me in carving out my understanding about love. If not all, I would like to share atleast 3 stories of love here along with my thoughts.
Most of us are familiar with the famous novel “Devdas” written by the great Indian author Late Shri Saratchandra Chattopadhyay & its famous character Devdas. People call it love and the story as a tragic love story. But I am sorry; I beg to differ.
The character Devdas, a lover of Paro, lost his childhood love. When Paro married another man, Devdas, renounced his family drowned himself in liquor & ultimately died. I wonder if it was really love. Why??? Because, I feel love cannot result into hurting anybody at least not the person whom we love. Devdas, didn’t think that his plight would hurt everyone who loves him. In fact, he did so to hurt them including Paro. Can it be love?
Love has simply no objective to own somebody or something, one loves rather true love is all about the happiness of someone we really love.
Now the second one.....Few years ago a very sentimental story ran across internet. It was about a simple boy who was a mediocre soccer player. He outperformed on the final day of his match, and when he was asked how? His answer was that his blind father who used to come every day to the match was no more, and it was the first day he was seeing the match from the heaven. He could drown himself in the ocean of sadness but it was true love which inspired him to play at his level best to make his father happy even in the heaven. His tribute to his father was true love. True Love inspires.
I started this article with a story from an Indian novel, I am quoting the third story again from Indian literature..... When I was in 7th or 8th standard I read “Nandini” a short story by veteran Indian author Premchanda. In this beautifully woven story, an aimless boy gets the meaning of life because of Nandini, a cow. When Nandini came into his life, it became the pivot of his life but Nandini was taken away by a landlord and this boy lost everything he acquired. But he truly loved Nandini & didn’t go back to his old mundane lifestyle but got himself indulged into productive activities, a tribute to his love. He retained the happiness Nandini brought into his life. True Love motivates to bring out best in ourselves.
All these facts about love may sound idealistic but it is also true that love is ideal. Love helps us to rise above what is ordinary.
Being realistic, I accept that most of the times love is accompanied with pain. But trust me, love has the power to heal also, we just need to trust love.
My purpose of this piece of writing is simple: it doesn’t no matter if we get or lose what we love: a person, a passion or anything but it matters to realize the true nature of this divine feeling. Our love should always result in something beautiful & fruitful to the life on earth. Love can never make us to run away from our duties, from our near and dear ones, from our lives but can only bring us closer to these. We need to remember, true love is all about happiness of the ones we really care for or love; it inspires & motivates; it brings best in us.
True love can become a center of our life but can never make us self-centered.
By this time you might have thought about few more basic elements of love. In fact that is what I would like to you to do. Life is nothing without love.
However, no matter what different people perceive but love will always be one of the most innocent, pure, beautiful & divine emotion in the entire universe.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Ripple Effects...:-)))))
The first drop of rain creates beautiful ripples on the surface of still water...it seems as if it spreads the soothing effect of rain everywhere...and you know what, it really does that.
We all human beings also do it somewhere in our lives.......how?
Ok, whenever an event occurs in our life, we discuss it with our near & dear ones. Now, sometimes the event is feel good however most of the times it is not the same case. Ironically, the events which negatively impact us are more.
We tend to discuss the bad news from news channel & news paper, from somebody's life and also from our lives more. At one hand it is ok, as it is required to be informed what is happening in this world but on the other hand it makes us feel sad, agitated and depressed. We loose trust in the world and somewhere the hope that there can be anything good enough to live happily.
The one seed of thought that made me to write this today is that we seldom discuss the good events with the same intensity we discuss the bad ones. And most of the times we even forget to discuss. We take good things granted and don't try to live or relive those.
It is an old saying that happiness multiplies by spreading(Please excuse me I don't remember it verbatim). I understand we all have our own share of bitter experiences but I firmly believe we have few sweet ones also. We may come across so many bad news in a day but atleast one good news or experience. My key point is let us share that good moment with great intensity. It may be a simple one for but may kindle hope in somebody's heart for better world; a reason to smile & live.
Let us discuss about good weather, cool breeze & dancing rain.
Let us discuss about trustworthy friends and the time we spent together
or have been spending.
Let us discuss about people who really love each other and kept the
promise and have been keeping it.
Let us discuss about marriages which are lasting through all thick &
thin of life.
Let us discuss about the help & humanity we have been experiencing in
personal or professional lives.
May seem to be small...but believe me it will create the beautiful ripple
effects.
Life us quite uncertain...we don't know what will happen the very next moment...then let us try to create the ripples of love, friendship, trust, humanity & hope.
By the way writing this email, sitting on my terrace, listening to soft music, feeling the cool breeze, handling my traces & brooding over few good moments in my life...is already making me feel beautiful about life.
Feel & spread the beauty...you will simply love it.
My Blog: http://deepindia.blogspot.com/2011/07/ripple-effect.html
With ever spreading smile :-),
Pragati Soni
We all human beings also do it somewhere in our lives.......how?
Ok, whenever an event occurs in our life, we discuss it with our near & dear ones. Now, sometimes the event is feel good however most of the times it is not the same case. Ironically, the events which negatively impact us are more.
We tend to discuss the bad news from news channel & news paper, from somebody's life and also from our lives more. At one hand it is ok, as it is required to be informed what is happening in this world but on the other hand it makes us feel sad, agitated and depressed. We loose trust in the world and somewhere the hope that there can be anything good enough to live happily.
The one seed of thought that made me to write this today is that we seldom discuss the good events with the same intensity we discuss the bad ones. And most of the times we even forget to discuss. We take good things granted and don't try to live or relive those.
It is an old saying that happiness multiplies by spreading(Please excuse me I don't remember it verbatim). I understand we all have our own share of bitter experiences but I firmly believe we have few sweet ones also. We may come across so many bad news in a day but atleast one good news or experience. My key point is let us share that good moment with great intensity. It may be a simple one for but may kindle hope in somebody's heart for better world; a reason to smile & live.
Let us discuss about good weather, cool breeze & dancing rain.
Let us discuss about trustworthy friends and the time we spent together
or have been spending.
Let us discuss about people who really love each other and kept the
promise and have been keeping it.
Let us discuss about marriages which are lasting through all thick &
thin of life.
Let us discuss about the help & humanity we have been experiencing in
personal or professional lives.
May seem to be small...but believe me it will create the beautiful ripple
effects.
Life us quite uncertain...we don't know what will happen the very next moment...then let us try to create the ripples of love, friendship, trust, humanity & hope.
By the way writing this email, sitting on my terrace, listening to soft music, feeling the cool breeze, handling my traces & brooding over few good moments in my life...is already making me feel beautiful about life.
Feel & spread the beauty...you will simply love it.
My Blog: http://deepindia.blogspot.com/2011/07/ripple-effect.html
With ever spreading smile :-),
Pragati Soni
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Expecto Patronum !!!!!!
Hello Everybody,
I am back again...but this time with some magic...!!!
Ok, just think...have you ever felt despair...a terrible state of hopelessness...a moment or couple of moments when you could only recall the most bitter experience or memory...
Actually this happens or may happen with anybody. After all, we all are human beings...:-)
Most of the times one negative experience lead to a trail of negative emotions & all our past bitter experiences come alive. Everything seems to be just out of control. Love, friendship, trust, humanity and especially hope seems to be non existent. We are left with no desire to carry on the very next moment in life.
You know what? Dementors cause similar state of mind in people...Now, who are dementors? Please have patience ,we will come to this later.
Dementors are really dreadful creatures and only one spell can ward off dementors i.e. "Expecto Patronum"... This spell creates "Patronus", a positive force, a projection of hope, happiness and the desire to survive and gaurd against dementors. But this spell is effective only when one concentrates only on happy memory or the happiest memory. Sounds like magic, isn't it? But very true!!!
My mother always say, "One can even learn from an ant". Infact, with the years passed I have learnt that one can learn so many things from an ant...:-). Every living and non living thing have some or the important philosophy of life to share with us. We just have to keep our senses active enough to comprehend it.
I have read and seen all and also learnt a few things from "Harry Potter Series'. Yes, someone may think that it is for children, I have no issues but if one can learn from each and every living or non living being then why not from these books. There are so many things in these books to learn with regards to human psychology.
"Expecto Patronum" is one of the many spells mentioned in these books. This spell is especially used to fend off dementors (the creatures which suck all the positivity from a person and fills the psyche with despair). It conjures an incarnation of the caster's innermost positive feelings, such as joy, hope, or the desire to survive. and you know what we all can do it...in fact have been doing it...without even going to any school of magic. We all are bestowed with magic.
I feel that it is very true only positive & happy thoughts can pull us out from the whirlpool of utter depression. Happiness is a state of mind and so does hopelessness. The only magic is to concentrate with all our might on the happy memory or memories...(We always need to remember the main goal in life and that is to be happy and if possible to make others happy. The latter one is not possible without the former one)
So, abandoned by a friend in the mid of difficulties...lost somebody so special(the most tragic loss)...got ditched by someone you were in love with...duped by a person you have always trusted...lost job...big loans to repay...life can be full by all these but then too life is above all these, it goes on and we have to move on & face it with a smile. We just have to try to concentrate with all our will power on the happy moment we cherish most in our lives; may be our mother's hug...father's support...kins' love...a smile on our child's face...falling in love...laughter with friends...a cup of tea with near & dear ones in the rainy evening...getting a friend or help unexpectedly at the most crucial time...getting admission in desired school or college...the list is endless...believe me...we all have atleast one such happiest moment in our lives.
The truth is that despite all the negativities life is still beautiful and if not we can try to make someone's(who may or may not know us or even care for us).
We all are great magicians...we just have to realise our potential...we just have to incant our "Expecto Patronum" to incarnate our most innermost positive feelings as a support to come in terms with life...to live life with a light heart, happy soul and a smile on our face.
With a magic smile:),
Pragati Soni
I am back again...but this time with some magic...!!!
Ok, just think...have you ever felt despair...a terrible state of hopelessness...a moment or couple of moments when you could only recall the most bitter experience or memory...
Actually this happens or may happen with anybody. After all, we all are human beings...:-)
Most of the times one negative experience lead to a trail of negative emotions & all our past bitter experiences come alive. Everything seems to be just out of control. Love, friendship, trust, humanity and especially hope seems to be non existent. We are left with no desire to carry on the very next moment in life.
You know what? Dementors cause similar state of mind in people...Now, who are dementors? Please have patience ,we will come to this later.
Dementors are really dreadful creatures and only one spell can ward off dementors i.e. "Expecto Patronum"... This spell creates "Patronus", a positive force, a projection of hope, happiness and the desire to survive and gaurd against dementors. But this spell is effective only when one concentrates only on happy memory or the happiest memory. Sounds like magic, isn't it? But very true!!!
My mother always say, "One can even learn from an ant". Infact, with the years passed I have learnt that one can learn so many things from an ant...:-). Every living and non living thing have some or the important philosophy of life to share with us. We just have to keep our senses active enough to comprehend it.
I have read and seen all and also learnt a few things from "Harry Potter Series'. Yes, someone may think that it is for children, I have no issues but if one can learn from each and every living or non living being then why not from these books. There are so many things in these books to learn with regards to human psychology.
"Expecto Patronum" is one of the many spells mentioned in these books. This spell is especially used to fend off dementors (the creatures which suck all the positivity from a person and fills the psyche with despair). It conjures an incarnation of the caster's innermost positive feelings, such as joy, hope, or the desire to survive. and you know what we all can do it...in fact have been doing it...without even going to any school of magic. We all are bestowed with magic.
I feel that it is very true only positive & happy thoughts can pull us out from the whirlpool of utter depression. Happiness is a state of mind and so does hopelessness. The only magic is to concentrate with all our might on the happy memory or memories...(We always need to remember the main goal in life and that is to be happy and if possible to make others happy. The latter one is not possible without the former one)
So, abandoned by a friend in the mid of difficulties...lost somebody so special(the most tragic loss)...got ditched by someone you were in love with...duped by a person you have always trusted...lost job...big loans to repay...life can be full by all these but then too life is above all these, it goes on and we have to move on & face it with a smile. We just have to try to concentrate with all our will power on the happy moment we cherish most in our lives; may be our mother's hug...father's support...kins' love...a smile on our child's face...falling in love...laughter with friends...a cup of tea with near & dear ones in the rainy evening...getting a friend or help unexpectedly at the most crucial time...getting admission in desired school or college...the list is endless...believe me...we all have atleast one such happiest moment in our lives.
The truth is that despite all the negativities life is still beautiful and if not we can try to make someone's(who may or may not know us or even care for us).
We all are great magicians...we just have to realise our potential...we just have to incant our "Expecto Patronum" to incarnate our most innermost positive feelings as a support to come in terms with life...to live life with a light heart, happy soul and a smile on our face.
With a magic smile:),
Pragati Soni
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Just Untag Happiness :-)
Once I was just brooding over life...I mean what we want...what we strive for...what we long for in our lives...what we all chase throughout our lives...???
I got the reply from my heart...my soul...and my mind...unanimously...the response was "happiness"...Yes, it is happiness we always try to seek...Ok...just think...
We want good health...why? We feel energetic & active...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want good family...why? We feel blessed & being loved...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want plenty money...why? We feel financially secure...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to look beautiful....why? We feel nice...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want trustworthy friends...why? We feel that we are not alone and there is somebody whom we can bank upon apart from our dear family...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want promising career...why? We want to have respect & position in society (which society unfortunately tags with job & money)...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want nice life partner...why? We want to share our life’s happiness, sorrow & everything with one of our best friends; a person whom we can rely under all the even & odds of life... ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want lovely & brilliant children...why? We want to feel proud of & make sure to leave a legacy when we leave this world...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to spend time with nature...why? We feel peaceful...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to do social service...why? We feel great to find that we can make difference to somebody’s life...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to be a known face...why? We feel wonderful to find that we are recognised...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to buy a beautiful spacious villa & a luxury car...why? We feel good to find that we can afford a good standard of living...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to listen melodious music...why? We feel relaxed...ultimately we feel "Happy".
We want to see all the good things in this world...why? Because...ultimately we want to feel “HAPPY”... :-))) {the above list can be longer}
If the ultimate thing we wish to have in this world is happiness...then the point is why we wait to be happy. Why we tag our happiness with events to be happened over which we have no control or insignificant people's arrival, departure, criticism or even appreciation?
Do you believe that we will get all the above mentioned possessions at the same time? Actually, you all know the answer, it seldom happens. Life keeps the balance. And that is why it matters to untag happiness with the external things.
If no matter, what we will get...at the end of the day we want to feel happy...why we can’t be happy in the course of getting it or even if we don't get it.
Yes, we should always strive for everything we deserve or desire...but should always keep in our concious mind the supreme aspiration..."Happiness".
Don’t tag your happiness with events or not so important people in your life.
Don’t ignore your near & dear ones, health, integrity, character & nature(mother nature).
In the pursuit of happiness don’t forget that “Happiness is the state of mind” Untag it with everything which is external...Choose to be happy...don’t chase it.
With a happy smile :-))),
Pragati Soni
PS: "Untag" is not a dictionary word. But I hope, it has communicated the right meaning.
Friday, April 29, 2011
LUNCH WITH GOD
Foreword: Sometimes we don't know and we don't think that our single smile, a small unselfish act can really strengthen one's belief in God and goodness. If we really want to leave something with somebody...then it should be a a memory which can bring smile on another person's face and not a tear in his/her eyes or pain in his/her heart.
LUNCH WITH GOD
A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.
When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her some chips. She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him.
Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered her a root beer. Again, she smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat
There all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.
As twilight approached, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave; but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old woman, and gave her a hug. She gave him her biggest smile ever.
When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?" He replied, " I had lunch with God." But before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? She's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen!"
Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy, returned to her home. Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and he asked, "Mother, what did you do today that made you so happy?" She replied! "I ate potato chips in the park with God." However, before her son responded, she added, " You know, he's much younger than I expected."
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of
Which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime! Embrace all equally!
LUNCH WITH GOD
A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.
When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her some chips. She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him.
Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered her a root beer. Again, she smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat
There all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.
As twilight approached, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave; but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old woman, and gave her a hug. She gave him her biggest smile ever.
When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?" He replied, " I had lunch with God." But before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? She's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen!"
Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy, returned to her home. Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and he asked, "Mother, what did you do today that made you so happy?" She replied! "I ate potato chips in the park with God." However, before her son responded, she added, " You know, he's much younger than I expected."
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of
Which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime! Embrace all equally!
A Miracle
I don't know whether the below story is true or not but I really felt good after reading this. Hence forwarding. I hope you will also find it good.
A Miracle
A little girl went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. Three times, even.. The total had to be exactly perfect.. No chance here for mistakes. Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to Rexall's Drug Store with the big red Indian Chief sign above the door.She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention, but he was too busy at this moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good. Finally she took aquarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!
'And what do you want?' the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice.. I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages,' he said without waiting for a reply to his question.
'Well, I want to talk to you about my brother,' Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. 'He's really, really sick....and I want to buy a miracle.'
'I beg your pardon?' said the pharmacist.
'His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how much does a miracle cost?'
'We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you,' the pharmacist said, softening a little.
'Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs.'
The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, 'What kind of a miracle does your brother need?' ' I don't know,' Tess replied with hereyes welling up. I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money..'
'How much do you have?' asked the man from Chicago 'One dollar and eleven cents,' Tess answered barely audible. 'And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to.'
'Well, what a coincidence,' smiled the man. 'A dollar and eleven cents---the exact price ofa miracle for little brothers.'
He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said 'Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the miracle you need.'
That well-dressed man was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, a surgeon, specializing in neuro-surgery.The operation was completed free of charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was homeagain and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place.
'That surgery,' her Mom whispered. 'was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would havecost?'
Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle cost....one dollar and eleven ents...plus the faith of a little child.
In our lives, we never know how many miracles we will need. A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law.
:-)
A Miracle
A little girl went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. Three times, even.. The total had to be exactly perfect.. No chance here for mistakes. Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to Rexall's Drug Store with the big red Indian Chief sign above the door.She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention, but he was too busy at this moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good. Finally she took aquarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!
'And what do you want?' the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice.. I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages,' he said without waiting for a reply to his question.
'Well, I want to talk to you about my brother,' Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. 'He's really, really sick....and I want to buy a miracle.'
'I beg your pardon?' said the pharmacist.
'His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how much does a miracle cost?'
'We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you,' the pharmacist said, softening a little.
'Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs.'
The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, 'What kind of a miracle does your brother need?' ' I don't know,' Tess replied with hereyes welling up. I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money..'
'How much do you have?' asked the man from Chicago 'One dollar and eleven cents,' Tess answered barely audible. 'And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to.'
'Well, what a coincidence,' smiled the man. 'A dollar and eleven cents---the exact price ofa miracle for little brothers.'
He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said 'Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the miracle you need.'
That well-dressed man was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, a surgeon, specializing in neuro-surgery.The operation was completed free of charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was homeagain and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place.
'That surgery,' her Mom whispered. 'was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would havecost?'
Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle cost....one dollar and eleven ents...plus the faith of a little child.
In our lives, we never know how many miracles we will need. A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law.
:-)
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