God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to

Hello Friends,
Few years back, I came across a quite simple but thought provoking email on relationships...romantic relationships. Romantic relationship is one of the most complex relationships on earth. Sometimes it is both sided whereas sometimes it is a one sided feeling; sometimes couples go for mutual break ups and sometimes one of them takes the decision & justy walks away. Love forever seems to be a rare event nowadys and unfortunately flirts & flings are common everywhere. This email gave me a fair explanation why people find it easy to fall in love everytrime whereas difficult to sustain it.

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happens TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades (sometimes only one partener feels this). It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking,"Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeed in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work if the other person really means it. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

*Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to*

I hope and somewhere silently wish to see ' love forever' everywhere. Life is nothing without love. Love makes the bundle of moments...a beautiful life. Do not bind love...leave it free but once in love give your 100% to sustain it. True love is a blessing of God, value it.


With a sustained lovely smile,
Pragati Soni