Hello Everybody,
We all know that biscuits provide nourishment to our body. So let us discuss about various kinds of biscuits available in the market like fibre biscuits, tea-time biscuits, cream biscuits, coconut biscuits and many more. Please, don't wonder. Being a foodie, I can discuss about this but not this time. However, we all agree that we need food for nourishment. This 'We' can be extended to our fellow plants & animals too. In a similar way, relationships also need nourishment. But, we do not get the right stuff always and never readily available. Because, the food for healthy relationships are not packaged & sold in supermarkets. Most of the times we have to work hard to get the healthy food to keep our life & relationships in good shape.
Few weeks back, I found a very good & short story floating on our company intranet...the story is about biscuits...I mean relationships :-) and it goes like this (in italics) followed by my thoughts:
"When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast, food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt biscuits."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burnt. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your mummy put in a long hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides... a burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"
After going through this short story I thought that if we can really learn to appreciate the burnt biscuits in our lives then they can nourish our ever lasting & happy relationships :-). Infact, when I brooded over my life, I found that I have been passing burnt biscuits to my family since my childhood and they never complained and always conveyed that they enjoyed every bit of it. My family has really been my best school for learning life, living and relationships.
You know what, relationships are not the projects where accuracy is everything. One may commit a mistake or a series of mistakes over a period of time, however, most of the times not intentionally. We deal with our families,friends and many more in our lives. Sometimes we loose our patience in dealing with them if they get angry, very emotional or do or say some illogical things. Not only this, we get annoyed if our calls are not answered, our emails are not replied or if our friend couldn't turn up. Sometimes, we also feel bad, if the action or reaction is not the way we wished or imagined. We either express this negatively (active reaction) or slowly cut off (passive reaction).
One may easily get frustrated or irritated if somebody has done a mistake or a continuum of mistakes. Besides this, leaving the person is also an effortless option. However, I wonder if these reactions do any good? If we go in deep we may find that the person might be undergoing some difficult or tough times. He or she desperately needs a listening ear or a shoulder to lean upon. At this juncture, we are required to step in the lives of our near & dear ones and not to step out. It is our understanding, support & above all love that our loved ones need.
We cannot change anybody by showing anger, irritation or frustration. The reason being, only one thing in the entire universe can actually make a person to change in a true sense and that is……”Love”. Love provides the security & motivation that actually have the power to change a person for good.
The best nourishment to relationship can be provided by love which ultimately leads to understanding & patience. It is one of the best nutrition we can give to our relationships.
We need to understand that sometimes, the biscuits passed to us are burnt but not because somebody wanted them to burn but because somebody simply couldn’t help it and need us. That is it :-)
So...please pass me the biscuits... anytime you wish. And yes, a burnt one will be just fine!
With a sweet smile full of life,
Pragati Soni
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